Break Time... wtf does that mean?!

Ok. So I just found out that a galfriend lately is going through a "break" in her relationship. Don't we hear that often every now and then? First off, I have to ask....what is the point of a break in a relationship? I mean, it seems to me that thats just delaying the inevitable. I've never understood the purpose of a "break". Its like saying... "I want to be with you, but just not for this amount of time." Ummm.. Right. If you've reached the point in your relationship where you feel you need a "break" from your partner, to be single again for a little bit.... I think that its pretty much obvious that the relationship just isn't meant to be.

Breaks also seem like a way of avoiding the problem to me. "Ok, well, we can't agree on a few things, so we need a break. Maybe all the problems won't be there when we return." Di Di Di! Just because you ignore it, doesn't mean its going to magically go away.

Ok, so.. we've gotten past the point that relationship "breaks" are pointless. But lets pretend we go on and do it anyway. Now you have to figure out what the rules are. Does the break mean you're single again? Or does it mean you have a partner still, but you're being suspended from each other? You know, all the cons and non of the pros. Well, that seems pretty pointless, doesn't it? So they say absence makes the heart grows fonder. Is that what a "break" is supposed to do? Make you appreciate your partner even more? Hmmm.... I don't know, ahaha. It all seems like crap to me.

Another question, still on the subject of "breaks". Lets pretend you have a couple who are relatively happy in their relationship, majority of the time. Every relationship has its problems, thats to be expected. But then lets say this happy couple gets into an argument the day before the happy boy is scheduled to go away with a bunch of other boys to a place the happy girl won't be, but lots of other girls will be. Now, the happy girl trusts her happy boy about as much as any female can trust a male. So she's obviously already worried about the upcoming time apart. Then, her happy boy says "We need to take a break. We can talk after I come back." Well what is a gal to think then?! Doesn't that just screams!!... 'I don't want to be with you' or rather 'I want to be free to fuck around this weekend, but I want you here waiting for me when I'm done.' How lamed can it get?

Be realistic, to me a "break" literally means walking away from you. History. Which may not be something bad. I mean there are people who can walk away from you and when they do their "breaks", I've learned to let them walk. I won't even try to talk another person into staying with me, loving me, calling me, caring about me, coming to see me, or staying attached to me. I believe when people can walk away from you, your destiny is never tied to those that had left. It might be made manifest that they were not for us somehow or rather. Don't people leave because they are not joined to you and it shouldnt be too hard to figure that if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay. Doesn't mean that they are a bad person but simply that their part in the story is over, and you've got to know when people's part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead.

Now, you've got to know when it's over.

I've got the gift of good-byes. It's my seventh sense gift, I believe in good-byes. If you are holding on to something that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life, holding on to the past that hurts and pains, If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth, struggling with the healing of a broken relationship, trying to help someone who won't even try to help themselves, depressed and stressed.......damn it, you better wake up now! Help yourself.

Bleh.. Ok.. I'm done rambling, for now. I've still got plenty to bitch about on this topic...burn it and I've got more important stuff to do next.